Just occurred to me today that for a guy you just met to actually ring you a few days later must take some courage, right? Do men wonder about what to say or when to ring or do they just pick up the phone and do it? Just thinking out loud – am sure there are no hard and fast ‘rules’ when it comes to these things. It’s the same for women. Some do, some don’t, we don’t follow a unified thought process. Having said that, there has to be loose categories in which certain types of behaviour falls into – I wonder which one I am. And am not sure why I’ve never really thought about this until now.
Am feeling a little bad about someone who rang me back after last weekend and I was sick when he called and wasn’t being nice at all. I hate having a conscience about these things. The conversation was rather awkward, perhaps because I never really intended or expected a call – I make it a point never to call, myself. Problem with most people I meet in bars is that they are usually after something I’m not really interested in pursuing. But in my opinion not calling is a lot more honest than giving out fake numbers. Why even bother with fake numbers? If you’re not interested in exchanging them then just say no, thanks.
Ten reasons why your pick up doesn’t call back
Feel free to add your two cents :)
1. You’re an ego boost. Some days we have bad days. Being approached by the opposite sex for a phone number for possible future contact is a great self-esteem booster. It doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is a bad person or attention seeker, we just all have those days where we feel unsexy, unloved, unattractive for whatever reason
2. They’re just not that into you. By giving you what you want (digits) we’re hoping you will leave us alone for the rest of the night. Easier than taking rude bitch/bastard approach. Also why some people give fake numbers.
3. We’re too nice. And can’t say no (See #2).
4. We’re not interested but not entirely disinterested either. Option to call (or not) comes in handy when you’re not sure where things are going. Obviously nowhere, in this case.
5. We’re attached/married. It’s not all that surprising people who have significant others at home will often say yes to a number exchange – see #1.
6. You panicked and left a cringe-worthy voicemail. We’ve changed our minds.
7. Beer goggles are off the next day/friends are falling over their arses laughing at the ‘score’/we’ve had a look at the camera pictures and we wonder what on earth made us give you our number the night before. It is entirely superficial (unfortunately – where copious amounts of alcohol are involved this is normally true)
8. You’ve called too soon. Or you’ve called about 10 times since, and he/she has not picked up your call – take the hint. After a bunch of missed calls if they *still* haven’t returned your call, you are probably now listed under stalker.
9. You’ve waited too long. Your ship has sailed on to better seas.
10. We just want to be friends, but the bits that happen after exchanging numbers suggest otherwise. Some people are just out to have a good time and are looking for like-minded people, not a relationship!
11. If you haven’t tried calling and are waiting for he/she to make the first move – there is also a (very minor) possibility that they might have misplaced your number/lost phone..
OK that last one was kind of weak..
