Lately I’ve noticed that when I bump into someone I haven’t seen in a long time, I usually don’t make it past small talk. In fact, even small talk requires tremendous effort on my part. Sometimes. My ability to chatter endlessly has degenerated into mumbled phrases. Even my close friends whom I used to spend endless hours on the phone with are now restricted to 10 minute calls and weekend cafe gossip.
After the usual hellos and how are yous, I’d randomly go through career, family, significant other and recent events.. and it ends there. If the other person is just as bad as I am, the conversation would end in two minutes.
So, hows Kevin?
He’s good, still as busy as ever.
And you? Same job?
Yup.
Cool. So, what have you been up to lately?
Nothing much, I work 6 days a week, not much time to go out. You?
Oh, this and that. Still doing the party circuit.
With a little effort, I could stretch it to about four minutes, but if it’s as interesting as watching bread bake, really, is it worth it? Sure, I pick out all the leads and prompts, but I can never decide what to say so I don’t say anything. Much.
I’ve just lost my social mojo (not that I had very much to begin with)
At a gathering with my old high school friends just last week, things were great. We couldn’t stop talking. These are a bunch of girls I spent years with on a daily basis, 5 years ago. On the surface everything looked great, but when I went back and thought about us, it seemed painfully evident that the 5 years we spent apart has changed all of us and things will never be the same as before. Small things, like how we still pick on Irene the exact same way we did 7 years ago, prove that we’re all trying hard to pretend nothing has changed.. but it has.
More and more, I’m feeling like a derelict adrift in a sea of whispered conversation.
More and more, I find myself withdrawing from social obligations and wanting to be alone instead. I shed even the pretence of being interested in meeting new people.
What’s wrong with the picture?
Seeing as how some people perceive me to be a social butterfly, plenty! Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t entirely given up speech or anything, I’m still doing the rounds and making monumental effort to deal with the finer points of networking.. but I’m also discovering a side of me that’s very reticent and I don’t know if I like it.
Maybe I just _can’t be bothered!_
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Last night, three cousins and three friends went to Cafe Flam and got very drunk. As Luke, Sam and Steph walked out of the club laughing and holding on to each other for dear life (having indulged in the intemperate pursuit of pleasure by way of a bottle of Chivas) two words popped into Steph’s head:
Kodak moment.