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01/15/2004 Entry: "Two observations"

Two observations

I was completely off my head today in one of my idyllic pensive states and I made two random observations.

The try before you buy:
People these days are getting married at an older average. Mid last century people were still getting married at an indecently young age (Do I think it is indecent because of what society believes is the norm now or because I really do think getting married mid-puberty is just plain wrong?) but this century finds us at the beginning of a little dilemma - the older people get married, the bigger the generation gap becomes and in time, will this change affect the way the world spins? I personally came to the conclusion that the reason why people are generally more focused on careers than starting a family now is because there is no real pressure to marry the first eligible person that comes along. Instead, we get to fully check out our partners (living together is becoming oh-so-common that it's almost so-last-century) before we fully commit. If we're not satisfied with what we see, it's as simple as passing it on and checking out the next prospect. And if like most Hollywood marriages that happen on a whim - c'mon, who can forget Pamela Anderson's white bikini wedding? - if it's too late, a divorce is only a lawyer away. Well, and a couple of cents. Once upon a time, that wasn't even allowed.

Single parenting is slowly becoming widespread and acceptable.

Also, women today are waaay more independent than they were before. To hell with arranged marriages for the modern woman, who'd put up with that? And if they're anything like Sex and the City's Samantha Jones.. it's not surprising that men are finding us more and more intimidatingly equal. Consistent media portrayal of the 'new woman image' is slowly making a dent in society and our way of life and even women in the more conservative Asian communities are finding their voices, but the whole thing is undeniably Western-influenced.

It's OK to be single and successful at 40.

How vodka can get you more hits:
My fascination with vodka has influenced me to name my site after one particular iconic brand: Absolut. The name works great with my long-time handle, fuzzy, in more ways than one. Nothing fuzzy can be absolute, which perfectly highlights the paradoxical and unpredictable nature of my character.. but that's another story. Absolutely Fuzzy is a fluke of a brilliant name because in alot of alphabetical link lists and whatnot, nothing much comes before it. I was wondering why I'm on top of the list of Mark's virtual friends before I noticed it was alphabetical (thank you, it's a nice surprise, and I've been wanting to link you since I read your journal but as usual, procrastination has been rearing its head) and then noting that I'm on top of Diarist's lists and concluding that being on top of link lists gets you first dibs to exploit a surfer's curiousity thus resulting in more hits. You get my drift. So thank you, Absolut, for giving me more hits in return for being a loyal consumer.

I wonder what it'd be like if I'd decided to name my site after another passion: Scrabble. Scrabbled-Fuzz.com would probably be the result.. although the concept of straggly hair eludes even me in this state.

Replies: 2 comments

I agree that it is ok for a woman to be single and successful at age 40 but you also have to remember that at that age she doesn't have much choice in the matter (of being single). A generalization but there is a past due date when it comes to women (as marriage material).

There is certainly an increasing trend of single 30+ successful and attractive women in Malaysia. Ironically, they tend to be women who were extremely popular during their heyday and are financially successful. They are comfortable being independent and are used to a certain standard of men. And when the choices of quality men start to dwindle (as they get older) they find it difficult to settle and remain single, and with each year it gets even more difficult. (Side note: Businesses should target this high disposable income group).


Posted by Jim @ 01/15/2004 11:05 AM GMT


"there is a past due date when it comes to women (as marriage material)."

Sounds like we're talking about the movie Something's Gotta Give! :)

Even if a woman actively chooses to be single at that age, I'm willing to bet people think it's because she has no other alternative.


Posted by hannah @ 01/15/2004 11:58 AM GMT















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